Truly powerful people have great humility. They do not try to impress, they do not try to be influential. They simply are. People are magnetically drawn to them. They are most often very silent and focused, aware of their core selves. They never persuade, nor do they use manipulation or aggressiveness to get their way. They listen. If there is anything they can offer to assist you, they offer it. If not, they are silent. – Sanaya Roman
It’s all about character, and you can’t build that by being disingenuous. Having great character is a combination between how you compose yourself internally, how you act with others and how others perceive you. You need all three things to be able to fully benefit from the whole cookie jar so to speak.
It’s a step by step process. Any and every interpersonal human relationship is founded on three core things: Honesty, Trust & Respect.
Being honest and being perceived as honest by those you come in contact with builds trust. And once people trust you then you will have their respect.
Now being honest does not mean you have to tell them everything. You are allowed to keep secrets. People have to work for it to be entitled to “full disclosure” so to speak and even then some things are best if you keep to yourself. Anyone asks you anything you don’t feel comfortable discussing just tell them “I don’t feel comfortable discussing that”. Just remember that they are entitled to the same treatment.
Once you build up trust with the people in your community, you can leverage that on each and every interactions. As time passes professional bonds will form and only ever grow stronger. Soon enough you will find yourself the recipient of their respect. And the best kind of respect, respect through admiration
And once these qualities are shown and validated you will find yourself in the unique situation of drawing the people around you. You won’t need to bother with small talk nor will you need to force anyone to take you seriously. People will just do it, naturally. And you will start to notice that you cut through the B.S, that you keep silent often and listen more. And since all those things are simply three lanes on a two way street, the more you receive, the more you dish out.
You will feel more at ease assisting those you can and leave out all the rest. You’ll be fine